Dating & social
How to ask someone out
You’re talking to Alex, someone you’ve been talking to. You’re walking out of class or work together. The goal: ask them out for a specific plan and time.
Your first line
“Hey, I really like talking with you. Want to get tacos with me Thursday after class, like on a date? No pressure either way.”
Specific invite: a real plan with a day is easy to say yes to. Saying it’s a date takes the guessing out, and the easy out keeps it light.
What Alex might say, and what to say back
Alex: “Wait, like as friends, or…?”
You: “Like a date. I’ve liked getting to know you. Totally fine if that’s not your thing.”
Alex: “Thursday’s not great for me.”
You: “No worries. Would Saturday afternoon work instead? Same plan.”
Alex: “Haha, maybe, sometime!”
You: “Cool, I’ll leave it with you. If you want to pick a day, just text me.”
Two things that trip people up
- Saying “we should hang out sometime.”Name what, when and where. A real plan is easier to say yes to.
- Pushing after a no or a second vague maybe.Take it lightly: “No worries, glad I asked.” Then drop it and stay friendly.
Now say it out loud
Reading the words isn’t the same as saying them. Practice this one with Alex pushing back like the real person would. Then your coach, Sol, fixes your exact words. The move to focus on: Specific invite.
Practice this one free3 free reps a day. No sign-up. Out loud or typed.